How Self-Esteem Develops
Self-esteem is the result of experiences that help a child feel capable, effective, and accepted
• When kids learn to do things for themselves and feel proud of what they can do, they feel capable.
• Children feel effective when they see that good things come from efforts like trying hard, getting close to a goal, or making progress. For example, kids who take part in a service projectfeel good about themselves when they see how their actions matter.
• When kids feel accepted and understood by a parent or someone close, they are likely to accept themselves, too. Their good feelings about themselves multiply as parents praise good behaviors, help when needed, and give encouragement and support.
• Children feel effective when they see that good things come from efforts like trying hard, getting close to a goal, or making progress. For example, kids who take part in a service projectfeel good about themselves when they see how their actions matter.
• When kids feel accepted and understood by a parent or someone close, they are likely to accept themselves, too. Their good feelings about themselves multiply as parents praise good behaviors, help when needed, and give encouragement and support.